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Explore Your Past through Memoir

When you were younger, was there a time that sang of optimism, one you reflect on today to sustain you when you’re feeling down?  No matter how difficult your road is now, at that juncture you lived with passion and regretted making time to sleep. Or was there a trying interval you survived, one that […]

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Good Grandparenting: Should You Let Grandchildren Win at Games?

Some of the best family times are found when playing games. Does good grandparenting mean letting the children win at games? How do you know when to let a child win and when is it good to learn how to lose gracefully. We’ve always played many games in our family, starting with simple ones when […]

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Grandparents Traveling With Family

Grandparents traveling with family, in this case, travel with grandchildren can be a wonderful experience. However, there are also challenges along the way. We’ve been traveling with our grandchildren since they were young. They are comfortable with us and we with them. We recently returned from a road trip where we stayed in motels for […]

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Dealing with Adult Children like Adults

It’s hard to imagine that our adult children will have to take care of us some day. However, it’s also hard to believe that many retirement age baby boomers have the responsibility of caring for elderly parents. Dealing with adult children like adults is the first step in preparing them to help you as you […]

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Working Adults Suffer When Caregiving for Elderly

MetLife Mature Market Institute released a study about caregiving for elderly. Working adults who are also elder caregivers can suffer financially. The study found there are 10 million working caregivers who lose an estimated $3 trillion in lost wages and benefits if they’re forced to quit their job prematurely. The average caretaker loses $304,000. That amount doesn’t include […]

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Creative Problem Solving when Dealing with Dementia

We moved my mother from Texas to Arizona to be closer to us. She wasn’t thrilled with the idea, but with clear symptoms of dementia, it was the wise thing to do. Even though she doesn’t live with us, I’m dealing with dementia on a daily basis. People often talk about the pain of coping […]

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HALT: How to Have a Healthy Relationship

How to have a healthy relationship with grandchildren is a primary concern for most grandparents. It was the second day of babysitting grandchildren, ages eleven, eight and two. Everything had gone well. There hadn’t been sibling bickering, tantrums or other outbursts that can make this experience difficult. We had decided to spend the morning at […]

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Help For Grandparents

  Six years ago I had my first grandchild. From the moment I saw her, I knew that being a grandparent was going to be one of the best things that could ever have happened to me. Today I have five grandchildren. In the thirty years that have elapsed since raising my own child, I […]

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Adult Children

What Does “Help” Really Look Like for Adult Children?

What does “help” really look like? Cathy Severson wrote about when to help our adult kids. As a therapist, I am frequently confronted with that and similar questions. I’m going to address the “how” of helping, but first, an easier question: Why do we want to help them? The answers include: We want to help […]

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Families living together

Six Tips for Living with Elderly Parents

As the population ages, more elderly parents are living with their adult children and their families. While many aspects of the situation can be rewarding, there are many parts of the living arrangement that can prove to be difficult to deal with. By working together and having a plan, most families can learn to adapt […]

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